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August 06, 2012

Tags: Kristy arnett, Motivation, Olympics, Failure, Success, Poker, Priorities.

After the WSOP, I fell into a bit of a lazy slump and needed some motivation to get back on track (know how I knew I needed to a reality check? I watched an entire season of Keeping Up with Kardashians -- don't judge).

So last week, I pulled up a blog post I wrote a couple years ago on my personal site called "Moti-frickin-vation." In it, I wrote about my priorities and how I was going to manage my time to reflect what was important to me. After rereading it, I decided to rewrite the post, update it, and share it with you guys...

Motivation is tough. Sometimes you are overflowing with it, so much so that it’s hard to even get started working towards your goals because you’re so excited you can’t figure out where to start. Other times, motivation is so far gone that even the thought of trying to find the motivation you lost sounds too hard.

To make progress, you first need to figure what’s important to you. Everyone has a list of priorities, but most people don't spend their time accordingly. If you broke down your day, what percentage of your time spent would consist of your top three or four priorities?

I feel really good about having made huge progress with my top three priorities which were 1) my relationships 2) my career 3) health. I feel closer to my family and friends than ever before, I'm happy where I am with my career and have worked really hard to prepare myself for new opportunities, and I competed in a frickin' fitness competition! With that said though, my 4th priorities (two were tied -- poker/writing a novel) has been pretty much nonexistent. I wrote two chapters of my book and since Black Friday, I've barely worked on my game. The only excuse I could come up with was, "I'm too lazy."

Then, I read the chapter on Motivation in The Mental Game of Poker by Jared Tendler.

Excerpt: Saying you’re lazy is an easy way of excusing yourself from having to do something. “I would have done X, but didn’t feel like it. What can I say? I’m lazy.” It’s as if being lazy is an incurable disease, or a character trait encoded in your DNA. If you believe deep down that laziness is permanent, it would be illogical for you to try anything to change it. However, laziness is not a permanent trait. It takes some work to break out of it, but this section can make that task easier. Laziness is a skill that, for better or worse, has been learned. You have learned the skill of doing something else. You have learned how to grind a large volume of television or sleep, rather than learning how to knuckle down and play longer sessions and work on your game. Instead of learning how to be productive, you’ve learned how to be lazy—and you’re quite good at it.
It's impossible to have no motivation. Think of being lazy as having a strong motivation to sleep for hours, watch TV, or mindlessly surf the internet. While that might seem like just a changing around of words, stating it that way is important in understanding and fixing the problem.

Jared also talks about the difference between stable motivation and inspiration. It's very detailed, so I highly suggest just reading the book yourself, but in short, try to remember the following:

This is the key to having stable motivation because inspiration is fleeting. However, if you do need a quick pick me up, this video seems to always do it for me Smile You will be successful when you want it as much as you want to breathe.

A silent killer for motivation that often cripples peoples' progression is fear. Fear of failure, even fear of success. Look at all these people who failed before they succeeded!

Inspirational Stories of Famous Failures and Their Future Success
--The Vice President of Columbia told this actor that he was never going to make it in the business. The actor? - Harrison Ford
His first book was rejected by 12 publishing houses and sixteen agents. - John Grisham
--Turned down by a recording company saying "We don't like their sound and guitar music is on the way out" They were talking about the Beatles
--Was told by his father that he would amount to nothing and be a disgrace to himself and his family - Charles Darwin
--Told by a music teacher "as a composer he is hopeless" - Beethoven
--Was told that "he couldn't sing at all" Enrico Caruso
--Fired from a newspaper because he "lacked imagination and had no original ideas" - Walt Disney
--Were told by Publishers that "anthologies didn't sell" and the book was "too positive"
--Rejected a total of 140 times. The book? Chicken Soup for the Soul. It now has 65 different titles and has sold over 80 million copies all over the world.
--Told by a teacher he was "too stupid to learn anything" Thomas Edison
--Failed the sixth grade - Winston Churchill
--Wasn't able to speak until he was almost 4 years old and his teachers said he would "never amount to much" - Albert Einstein
--Did poorly in school and failed at running the family farm - Isaac Newton
--Was not allowed to wait on customers in the store he worked in because "he didn't have enough sense" - F. W. Woolworth
--Was cut from the high school basketball team, went home, locked himself in his room and cried - Michael Jordan
--Producer told her she was "unattractive" and could not act - Marilyn Monroe
--This book was rejected 18 times before it was published. It then sold over one million copies the first year. The book was Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach
--Auditioned for All My Children and got rejected - Julia Roberts
--Received 30 rejections and the author threw it in the trash. Luckily his wife fished it out again and encouraged him to resubmit it. The book was Carrie - the author Stephen King

And this is for those of you with poker goals. It was posted three years ago but still rings true.

citizenwind's Blog on December 18 2009
Some people don't make it at poker. Who knows why. Tilt? Neurosis? Lack of ingenuity? Mathematical phobia? Inability to calculate? To apply common sense? No. This isn't the case. There are smart, talented players who are not making it. Some of my students are clearly smarter and more naturally talented than I am, but are huge losers. But why? Why are people not beating 100nl? Or 200nl? It seriously requires common sense and a basic understanding. Not hard. You want a hard game? Learn chess. The amount of memorization and calculation requires for chess is totally mind-boggling compared to enumerative analysis. I bet if chess players played poker, they'd shit on people all the time. Like crawl up on their chests and take dumps on them. Poker isn't that hard. It's not even as hard as say, Street Fighter. You want to talk about leveling? Wait until Blanka is chewing on your face for the third tick throw in a row. Yeah, I'm a nerd, wanna fight about it?
If you're hoping to go pro at 50-100nl, but you're failing at it, stop failing. Do whatever it takes. Get coaching. Read. Study ferociously. Watch a video and force yourself to leave the session with 4-6 pages of notes. Don't know something? Then go find the answer. Ask. Post in forums. There are 10k CR members and maybe two dozen regulars posters in each forum. Surely there are more full-time grinders than that.
Look. You could make six-figures in 2010. I came from a broke family. 100k is an outrageous amount of money. 250k is unimaginable. We're talking about life-changing amounts of dough. You could make this. Easily. If you're into material things, next year you could be driving an Audi and have a lot of TVs. You could pop bottles and do other rapper-ly activites. If you're just into living free (aka hippie), you could have an extremely high paying job and unlimited freedom. I've never had a 9-5 and never will, all because I decided to spend a year really learning how to play some fucking poker.
Stop dicking around. Stop being a tilting monkey. Four year olds throw tantrums. You're an adult. Get over it. If you don't know the math, learn it right now and don't step onto a table until you know it back and forth. Buckle down. Play less tables. Turn off the TV. Don't watch videos in the background while you play, make it part of your daily routine to watch a Myth or CTS video and take a notes on all the plays and thoughts that you would not have emulated. Take notes. WHATEVER IT TAKES. In one year, you'll look back at the moment you decided to take it really, really seriously and realized that it was way easier than you thought.</blockquote>
Citizenwind’s blog really applies to anything. Just fucking DO IT! It’s easier to be scared, and easier not to try, but I guarantee you it will bite you in your lazy ass later in life if you don’t TRY.

Citizenwind’s blog really applies to anything. Just fucking DO IT! It’s easier to be scared, and easier not to try, but I guarantee you it will bite you in your lazy ass later in life if you don’t TRY.

And if you need anymore inspiration, just watch the Olympics. These athletes are amazing!!!

I hope this has helped light a huge fire under your ass! Smile



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